Being single at twenty can be challenging at times.
I know, I’m young…I have all the time in the world.
I’m reminded of this all the time, and if you’re single, I’m sure you are too.
There is nothing wrong with being single at this age.
It doesn’t make you less valuable, and it certainly doesn’t mean there is something wrong with you.
At my age, my parents knew they were going to marry each other and both of my brothers knew they were going to marry their, now, wives.
At times I feel the pressure to hurry up and meet the person I will marry. Not that I’m less-than or slow, but just that I should be there, you know?
I then look at all that I’ve experienced to-date and what the next few years entails for me. I see the places I’ve gone and the opportunities I’ve taken, and I’ve realized all the amazing freedoms that come with singleness.
I’m not saying that there is no reason to sit in bed with a tub of ice cream and a cheesy romance and cry (for that is perfectly acceptable). What I am saying is that there are perks to being single that we should take advantage of while we can!
Have you always wanted to travel? Then travel!
Have you ever wanted to teach English in a different country? Then teach!
Have you ever wanted to go on a date, just to go on a date? Then date!
Why is there a rush? Why has our society put this horrible expectation on twenty-somethings to find “the one”?
I get that women have an innate desire to be loved, but we also have an innate desire to love and be loved by God.
Why then, is the Christian population not pushing singles to simply fall in love with God, rather than making them feel less-than because we don’t have someone to hold hands with, or to bring us flowers “just because”.
Every girl wants that, but what every girl truly needs is more of Jesus.
This isn’t anything new. It doesn’t change things. It is simply a reminder that the only love we really need in our lives is God. We don’t need a man, because even the best of men cannot fill this God-shaped hole in our hearts.
Don’t stop watching those chick-flicks, because I get it, they can be addictive. Don’t stop praying for your future husband, because prayer is a powerful thing. Don’t stop desiring to be loved, because, well…you can’t. Don’t stop reading those Christian singles books, because they may come in handy some day!
But do start loving God more.
Start letting Him love you more! Start reading the Bible more, it is His love letter to you! Start basking in His presence as often as possible, and letting Him fill you up!
Have a blessed day!