Go Back

We seem to be a future-driven society. I’ve talked about this before in past posts. From a young age we are asked what we want to be when we grow up. In jr. high we start taking personality tests that lead to career results. In high school all the focus seems to be on college, degrees and careers. Future, future, future.

Planning for the future isn’t necessarily a bad thing, but we lose a lot when we are only focused on the future.

BUT, I’m not writing today to talk about how we need to be focused on the present. I’m writing to take a step back, look on the past and see how far we’ve come.

Think back to this time last year. Think of how much you have grown, learned and changed in just the past year. Pull out an old journal if necessary, and read about what problems surrounded you a year ago. Walk through all of your familiar places, and find the differences in your world today.

Although I think dwelling in the past can sometimes be discouraging, I do think that reflection is valuable.

There is something to be said about progress.

A year ago, I had only been back from my three months in Honduras for a couple weeks and was still in a foggy, reverse-culture-shock state. I’m pretty sure it was around this time that I went to the grocery store to buy orange juice and was completely overwhelmed by the wall of options, as opposed to the big or small sizes available in Honduras, that I left the store without buying anything.

I hadn’t started with youth ministry yet, and now it is the highlight of my week. There is no other form of ministry that I would rather be doing right now.

I’ve learned so much academically and in my spiritual walk that it makes me giddy!

God is so good!

So, take a moment to step back, reflect on the past year and think about how far you have come. Think about all the positive changes that have happened to you or that you have made. Think about your growth in Christ. Think about the sour or unhealthy relationships that you walked through and away from.

It is far too easy to only look back and see all of the trials, and miss all the triumphs. God is more than the valleys, He is the victory on the mountaintops. 

If you look back and you’re disappointed, then this is just as valuable for you. Look back and see the things you missed, the problems you wished were different. And do something about it. Reflection is only valuable when we use it for improvement and growth.

It won’t all be good, because we are broken people living in a broken world, but pray that God would reveal to you the progress you have made!

Look back, reflect and move forward!

Have a blessed day,



Future Hoping

We, as a generation, or maybe even a society, spend a lot of time looking to the future. I believe that a lot of that is beyond our control. From a very young age, children are asked what they want to be when they grow up.

Children are always playing house, classroom and other games that they act as adults. As children get older, they begin taking personality tests and career tests in 7th and 8th grade, to start preparing their minds. Then in high school, students are bombarded with this constant question of what they’re doing with the rest of their life. They take classes about careers, they take tests to show them what career would be best for them, they have meetings with school counselors about their future, they plan their classes around what they want to do after high school. Then they move on to their university or college of choice, and within two years of basic courses have to have an absolute decision on their major by their 3rd year.

It seems crazy to me!

How can a twenty-something, or younger, know what they want to do for “the rest of their life?” They can’t! We can’t know what tomorrow will bring, let alone 20 or 30 years. You could have a gaggle of children, and a stay at home parent. You could be the bread-winner for your family. You could still be single. You and your spouse could both work full time. You could be diagnosed with a fatal disease. You could have a child with a disability. The list goes on and on, of things that we can’t plan for. Sometimes life takes you on an adventure that you least expected, and we miss all of the adventure. We miss the lessons we could have learned, and the sights we could have seen.

Not only are we constantly looking and planning for years in the future, but we are constantly living in the future. Wishing for this, hoping for that and planning for all things in between. I know, it’s a difficult habit to end, and often times I don’t think we realize what we’re doing.

This trip has helped me to realize how much time I spend planning for the future, and completely miss present moments. I’m so focused on an end-goal that I lose track of what’s really important, right now.

Teaching children really helps to realize this. As an example, one week in Honduras, I was teaching about jobs, and when I asked the meaning of “chef” in Spanish, one of my students raised his hand and said “Mami”. I was so focused on getting them to the end-goal of understanding what these jobs are, that I almost didn’t stop to enjoy the moment.

Moments come and go so quickly. I’m not sure what the solution to the problem is, or if there even is a solution. Is it possible to fully live in the present, while still having a grasp of the future? I believe we need to have a rough idea of our future, and having goals is important. I also believe that we miss too much of what is happening around us because of our own plans.

What moments have you been missing, and how can you truly live in them?

Have a blessed day!


Completely in Love with Jesus

There are a lot of Christian women out there, including myself, who are settling for less than what God desires for them. I know some of them, I am one of them, therefore I am sure there are plenty more.

We settle for a boy, who has chosen not to grow up and become a man, but to become stationary. We settle for a man who has a relationship with God, but is not willing to lead spiritually. We settle for a guy who doesn’t even love Jesus, because we think he’ll be the only guy to come around and appreciate who we truly are (which is a lie). We settle for a boy who has promised us change, who has “given” his heart to Jesus because of us.

I’ve been there, in every one of those situations, and I understand that it’s not easy to stop settling.

My favorite quote from the Boy Meets Girl series by Louie Giglio is this: “You can’t be united with someone who doesn’t share your heartbeat for the most important thing in the world.” My heart jumps every time I hear those words. It is far to easy to become comfortable with a man who isn’t completely in love with Jesus.

Women were created for relationships, we were created to crave deep, meaningful relationships. It is sewn into the very stitches of our soul. We want to be loved and to feel wanted, by someone, anyone.

So when a handsome “man”, or even a not-so-handsome one, waltzes into your life and attempts to sweep you off your feet, you let them, regardless of where they stand with Jesus.

But how can you build a relationship with someone who doesn’t desire Jesus in the same way that you do? What do you build a relationship like that on?

I’m making a declaration tonight, and my prayer is that others would along with me.

I’m declaring that I will not give my heart to any man who isn’t 100%, completely in love with Jesus, and who is not prepared and willing to lead spiritually. 

I’m done settling for less, not because I deserve more, but because I’m worth more. I’m beginning to understand that waiting on God is not about all of the times He says no, but to those incredible times that He says yes. Those blessings are sure to be far more fulfilling and godly than following after what we desire.

I don’t want a man to sweep me off my feet anymore, but instead one that will seek God in order to find his way to my heart. I want a relationship with God as its foundation, because seriously, if you find someone who is completely in love with Jesus everything else fades into the background. I want that. I want a man that is so wrapped up in Christ, that I can’t see him without first seeing Christ.

Anyways, enough rambling about my wants.

I have made this declaration, to God, to myself and also to any of you who read this.

I want to be held accountable for this because our relationships are some of the most important decisions we make in life. They largely affect who we become, and what we bring into future relationships and all other aspects of our lives.

I truly hope to have inspired you in some way, whether it be about your current relationship or future relationships.

Have a blessed day!