Sex and God

Sex & God

I read an article the other day that broke my heart. I’m not referencing it here because I don’t write for the sake of arguing or even defending my faith. I write out of the desire to share truth in a world blinded by so many lies. 

This article talked about the issues that happened to a woman who waited until marriage to have sex. She stayed a virgin and when things didn’t pan out as she had hoped after her wedding day, she blamed it on the church and regretted her decision to wait until marriage. First off, I would like to say that a decision to wait until marriage to have sex should not only be a personal decision, but it also is not designed by the church, it is designed by God. Secondly, being a virgin should not be our identity, but being a child of Christ should be. It truly made me sad that this woman was not only raised in a church that put her viriginity on a pedestal and let it define who she was, but that she connected that part of her life with the church and not Christ. 

I have nothing to back up my ideas other than faith and my belief in the Bible. I also know that writing something on this topic is opening myself up to many negative responses, and I’m okay with that.

I was raised in the church, and although sex and waiting has been encouraged and talked about, it was never created as an idol. In a society where sex is the norm, staying pure until marriage is rare. It’s even becoming acceptable in the church. 

It breaks my heart to see that women, even girls, are not able to find love and affection in any other way. They too easily give of themselves, without understanding just how much they are actually giving. 

Staying pure goes beyond sex, it includes emotions as well. Although I’m still a virgin, I am the first to admit that I have given of my emotions and heart too freely. The Bible says we should protect our hearts (Proverbs 4:23), but we all have a God-shaped hole in our heart and we will try to fill it with anything that comes our way. 

I hate that the enemy has gotten such a strong grip on our generation. He has gotten us to believe that if we just give of ourselves, we will be satisfied. What is so unfortunate, is that it never fills the hole in our hearts. 

I’m 21, single and have never really been in a relationship. I’m the Moses of this generation, because I don’t have much experience in this department, so maybe I have it all wrong. But I also know that as a young person, I’m able to and should be an example (1Timothy 4:12). If we as Christians are not living as the Bible calls us to, then what makes us any different than the world? 

You see, abstaining from sex until marriage is not an identity, and it shouldn’t even be tied to the church. If you’re remaining a virgin for the sake of praise from others, then you’ve got it completely wrong. As I’ve said on so many other topics, it always comes back to the heart. 

God created you sacred, pure and you are His child, His artwork. Forget all the tactics that are used to push people towards abstinence, and simply bask in the fact that you are a masterpiece. Would you take the Mona Lisa to the beach and set it in the sand? Would you take a Van Gogh piece and lay it on your lap while eating spaghetti? 

Then why would you take a masterpiece God created, which is invaluable, and give it away so freely?

Sex is prevalent in our culture. You can hardly turn on a show or movie without it being referenced or included. The biggest struggle is to understand that it was created as something sacred. Sex is a sin (1 Corinthians 6:18, Hebrews 13:10, Matthew 15:19). There are no ‘if’s or ‘but’s about it. 

It’s sad that this woman had a bad experience, but I think it’s worse that this is publicly displayed. I can’t even imagine the many lies that are filling the heads of young women everywhere who happen upon this article. They instantly question their decisions, or believe that sex is not sacred or giving of self.

My prayer is that Jesus would prevail in this generation. That sex before marriage would no longer be the norm. That women and girls would see themselves as beautiful and precious treasures to be discovered, not a toy to be used and left behind. 

There are so many blurred lines in our culture, and the difference between a God-fearing woman, and non-Christian woman is becoming far to small. We should be honoring our bodies as the masterpieces God created them to be. We should be waiting for the man that desires to protect us as if we are precious treasures. We should be desiring more than what the world has to offer, because we have a God who can offer so much more. He will fill the hole in your heart, and He is the only thing that can. 

Have a blessed day!

-Sadie

Speak Life

“I’m not as smart as him.”

“I probably can’t do it.”

“I’m not as pretty as her.”

“She’s a better mother than I could ever be.”

“I always mess things up.”

“I’m so stupid.”

“I’m not good enough.”

These are all thoughts that we’ve had, myself included. The last one especially. Philippians 4:8 says, “Brothers and sisters, think about the things that are good and worthy of praise. Think about the things that are true and honorable and right and pure and beautiful and respected.” This verse is often used in reference to thinking purely, but the more I read it, the more I realize how broad it is. True, pure, good, beautiful. Those are a few of the words that really stand out to me when I think about negative thoughts.

God has really been putting a burden on my heart for speaking truth into the lies that others have bought into. This morning as I was looking to Scripture to find direction for my thoughts, I kept coming to the words “encourage”, “lift up”, and “life”. I’ve written about the significance of words in previous posts, because as a writer I have been able to directly see the weight of them.

Today, I want to focus on Ephesians 4:29. There are so many verses that state our obligation to encourage and lift others up. I use such a strong word, because the Bible doesn’t say, “It’d be kinda cool if you could…” it just says to do it! Not to do it only if you’re having a good day, or your mood allows for it. This verse says, “When you talk, do not say harmful things, but say what people need—words that will help others become stronger. Then what you say will do good to those who listen to you.”

I was recently talking to a friend on the phone who is nearing graduation and beginning to have plans for her future come together. Others have been starting to recognize in her the insecurity she holds and how that impacts her thought cycle. While we were goofing of and enjoying each other, she said a comment, that she probably figured was in passing. All I could hear in her words were lies, negativity and insecurity. I called her on it. She tried to move on, but I just could not let it go. In that moment, I could feel God speaking life into her. It was not my own thoughts, words or heart being spoken to her in that time, but rather God using me to reach her.

I’m not sure why this passion and burden has been set so strongly on my heart recently, but what is so beautiful about it is that I can actually do something with it! I can confront those words when they are spoken by others.

I want to challenge you to do the same. I believe that’s one of the best parts of relationships, is the ability to build others up! When you hear someone speak down on themselves, whether clearly or in passing, don’t just idly hear it and continue on. Stop the conversation, call them on it, and speak life into the negativity. Honestly, it is a challenging thing to do, it’s much easier to just let it slide, but I think this is one small aspect of what it looks like to love others as yourself. If I were to say things about myself that were flat-out lies, I would want someone to attack it and encourage me.

Just a thought to roll around in your mind!

Have a blessed day!

-Sadie

You Are Unconditionally Loved

It is true: You are unconditionally loved. Take a second to let that soak in.

From the Inside Out by Hillsong United starts with these lyrics:

“A thousand times I’ve failed,
Still your mercy remains.
Should I stumble again,
Still I’m caught in Your grace.”

It is such a great thing to be reminded that God’s grace and mercy is constantly wrapped around us when we haven’t quite measured up. Or at least when we feel we haven’t quite measured up. How often do you find yourself feeling less-than or unlovable?

My devotional this morning got my mind spinning on just how huge God’s love is. My devotionals said this:

How it grieves Me to see my children working for love: trying harder and harder, yet never feeling good enough to be loved. Be careful that your devotion to me does not become another form of works. I want you to come into my presence joyfully and confidently.

Wow!

How beautiful is this reminder! We don’t have to work for God’s love. We don’t have to earn it. He already loves us! 

How often do you catch yourself working and doing things to please others, with the hopes of earning their love and praise? How many times do you become discouraged when you feel that it isn’t enough, or you aren’t enough?

It is amazing to me that we serve this God who doesn’t ask us to work for His love, but who gives it to us freely every day.

Zephaniah 3:17 says, “The Lord your God is with you; the mighty One will save you. He will rejoice over you. You will rest in his love; he will sing and be joyful over you. 

Double wow!

love that! It reminds me of a proud parent, who discovers her child is on the honor roll. Or the proud teacher who watches her students finally understand something and succeed. Those two people are completely rejoicing over their children! That is what God does, every single day!

To know that He, the God of the Universe, is rejoicing over you, wow! You are as a spec of dust compared to the Universe and all the creations in it, and yet God is joyful over you!

I simply cannot fathom the vastness of His love, and the pride He feels for each of His children. You don’t have to work to please people, in fact you shouldn’t work to please people (Galations 1:10, Colossians 3:23, Ephesians 6:5). Why? Mostly because we are called to work for God alone, but also because you have the biggest, greatest and most powerful Man on your side who is absolutely in love with you! 

Take some time today to truly breathe that in, to truly let God remind you of this simple truth. You are enough, exactly where you are and you will always be enough! Stop working to please people, because you will never get there. Stop trying to earn God’s love, because you are already there. God is rejoicing over you, He is proud of you and he is completely in love with you, forever and always.

Have an extremely blessed day,

-Sadie

One Step At A Time

I accidentally read today’s devotion yesterday, and yet I didn’t pick up on this until the second time around. I’m reading through Jesus Calling and the the very last line today is, “I will open up the way before you, one step at a time.

If you read my previous post, you will understand that my heart and dreams for my life are changing. Rather, I’m realizing I stepped ahead of God and made plans, and realized I hadn’t been stopping and checking with Him along the way. So here I am, back at square one.

Last night, I was reminded that I am just like my father. I don’t do well without a plan, of some kind. I’m always very open to spontaneity or changes, but I like to have a rough idea planned. Since my dreams for Honduras have been changing, and I’m really working on following what God has, I’ve had to drop everything I have planned. I have goals, things that I someday wish to accomplish, but I have no plan.

Except, of course, to return to Ohio and take things one step at a time.

This trip has shown me how much I love to teach. It has shown me how difficult discipline is with a language barrier. So other than finishing my Elementary Education degree, and eventually doing a year for my license, I have no plan.

Exodus 14:14 says, “The Lord will fight for you, you need only to be still” (NIV). I like the NCV even more, which states, “You only need to remain calm; the Lord will fight for you.” Remain calm, be still!

How often do we walk ahead of God, and find ourselves in a rough patch? We walk ahead in the small stuff and the big stuff. Here I had my entire future planned out, and had walked ahead of Him. This is the God who created me, who knows how many hairs are on my head, and yet I can’t trust him with my future? Of course He has it all planned out, and He will show it to me in His perfect timing. I need to be still, to sit in His presence, and to take life step by step. Not all in one giant leap, but each small step.

I may be at square one, once again, but I have this incredible God leading me. This time, I’m going to make sure He’s leading and I’m following. My prayer is that God would make it extremely obvious to me, which step He wants me to take and when.

My prayer is also that anyone that reads this may realize they need to take life step by step, walk with patience and be still!

Have a blessed day,

-Sadie